My top 200 achievements

I’ve achieved so many things, I doubt I would be able to count them to 200, but let me try- I’ve been dared! 

Here goes….

I could write my name at the age 3, started school at 5, was top sprinter for my primary and second top sprinter in high school, ran the 1/14 100m race at 12, started high school at 12, left high school with more than 26 certificates and a floating trophy for best RCL member, was a tutor, made it to the highest leadership position bestowed on a learner in high school, took a gap year to decide on the best career choice, graduated, got a job, successful internship, got a promotion every two years at work and was account manager at 24 and a half- lol, bought a car…. What else….I can’t think anymore.

What Motivates Me

I wake up every day and think how fortunate I am to be going to a career orientated job and doing what I love.  I studied PR, but like most professions, each division and area of expertise has a field of interest.  You could be a PR or Marketing person at a law firm or university, or you could be a PR specialist for a big fashion house or IT company.  Well, what I’m trying to say is, I believe each person should always try to find their niche and do what motivates them and choose a career field best suited for them.  If you do this, you will never work a day in your life!

I am motivated by deadlines, smiles, happiness and decent people that make my job a lot easier to deal and get through the day.  I am also motivated by money- who isn’t?  I am also motivated by the good things in life and future ambitions – dreams make life and dreams come true.

the 10 most unexpected consequences of being online.

-          You could be set up for a hi jack

-          You could have a stalker going to all the places you hang out in based on information and images on Facebook

-          Your potential and future boss could find some revealing information about you on twitter updates

-          You sordid affair could get easily exposed and there’ll be no turning

-          News and gossip is immediate and often cannot be amended or deleted

-          You could be a victim of Phishing 101

-          Your personality can become transparent through social networking media

-          Someone could steal your photograph and use for id purposes on other phones

-          You could meet a dangerous lover on dating sites and get killed or your monies “taken away”

-          You could also meet a potential business venture that could not be the best decision you would ever make

The Elephant in the Room lol

I laugh at moment like these.  They happen quite often in my friendship circle- so many personalities with conflicting minds and feelings. Every so often we meet and chat and drink and party and network- and and and! But quite often than not, we fight a lot and there is always an elephant hanging in the roof- but fortunately, our love for each other and for friendship sakes we always manage to bounce back and share the love.

Elephants in the roof or rooms are quite funny and are always moments silly at most times.  My advice to all those reading this note is to never try to never hold grudges and move on with whatever it is that occurred-think about the value of the friendship and whether or not you are willing to move on and forgive- be the bigger person- however, if all else fails- walk the elephant out the room and walk out of the friendship- family is a different case I’m afraid.

Every day is a good day

Each day is different.  We wake every morning and we do the same routine and prep for work to do wither the same thing or different and exciting new things daily.  For those who are in despair thinking about the unfortunate circumstances they encounter daily need not despair.  I believe a lot in the saying of “the mind is a powerful tool”  if you think of negative energies, you are bound to bring negative energy to yourself.  So treat every new day as a good day.

Smile at the annoying colleague who often says awful remarks at you or your work, treasure the moment, ignore the annoying background you encounter daily and think of positive thoughts all the time.  Life is too short.

Try a cliché

Who cares what people think and or what people will think of you when you do the ordinary and just be yourself or do what other people do?  I know it’s a cliché to do what everyone else does but I firmly believe there is nothing in doing the ordinary and what everyone normally find boring.  Yes it may be cliché, but clichés can sometimes be quite cool.

Try a cliché for a day and see what responses you will get from the people around you and those closest to you. You don’t ever need to think twice about some things in life, just tilt your head and do.  Often in life the things we do spontaneously are the ones we live to enjoy and treasure- so what, try one, it’s just a cliché.

Looks

Who cares how thing, big, ugly or pretty you are.  Every single definition of these words differs from one person to the next.   But yet we become constantly affected by the harsh definitions and context of each.  What is beautiful, society and marketing has affected our thoughts and perception by having this picture of light in complexion, red lips and shaped eyebrows, while ugly is usually defined as crooked, out of the ordinary and distasteful.  Who has the right to say fat people are not beautiful and that thin versions are more attractive.  What ever happened to different strokes for different folks? 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; if you feel beautiful you will possess that power and give that perception from others and those close to you.  Think about it- you’re beautiful.

Time, Time, Time

How time flies!  I think back a while ago, and remember that the events I remember ever so fondly actually happened over a year ago- yet I the memories are clearly scribed in my thoughts. Quite recently I have also moved and changed jobs and remember quite clearly my first day at my previous job.  4 years passed, I grew spiritually, emotionally, professionally and even gained weight over the years.  Glad to say that I have now managed to lose some of the weight over the last year- health and fitness and good looks have now become important.

I now look ford to what the future holds for me.  Time is of the essence as most would say, and one need to make every second count.  Because in a matter of time, I will think back and count my blessing and be happy the achievements I have acquired.  Time, dear brothers and sisters, does not wait for anyone; make every second, minute and day count.

Finally

What an overwhelming feel it has been!  Glad to say that moving on has been the best thing that’s happened over the last month.  Not even thinking about it the day after the triggered conflict of interest and difference of opinion has been a sign that indeed, it must time to call it quits.  Finally I walked away, finally I let it go, finally I said goodbye and finally I managed to end it.  I Laugh about it now that I’ve managed to walk away, see you in the future or maybe never---I’m talking to that black shadow by the by.

The Face

How long has been since South Africa been in a democratic country again?  Hmmm, let me think, 15 years?  But yet some poor souls still struggle and face racial discrimination.  This is most evident in certain parts of the country where some still face discrimination.  Sadly, our ambassadors can only do so much while the rest of us watch while they face bad treatment from their fairer in complexion counterparts.  It is time we unite and not even see a person because of their colour, but more of what they can do in business, who they are and just a name and face- it does not need to get personal and coloured.  Share the love, what I saw on tv yesterday was not a pretty site.  But anyway, only God knows when it will end for our brothers and sisters in the North West.

Happy Times

Happy times are ahead for all of us.  One moment may seem that all is about to crumble, but if you look deep into your soul and listen to your inner voice- you can do whatever your heart desires.  I advise all people to do what makes them happy, be it at home, at school or at work.  Do what you do best and be the best you can be.  These words are often advised by those who know best and are doing what their heart desires.  When you do what you’re good at, you will succeed and never feel like you are working a single day in your life.  Follow your dreams and make it happen- life and the sky is the limit- take the bull by its horns and shine.

Abuse

A realization became real quite recently when a good friend of mine seeks helps.  Help in the form of emotional help and not physical help. I was quite shocked at how a beautiful soul could let another being take control of her life and make or rather enforce his beliefs and actions on her.  Why do some men think they rule the world and can do whatever they want with our beautiful rose petals- our women.  I personally didn’t think people could still be abused and controlled and stuck in abusive relationships- but I saw if happening.  My dear friends, abuse affects your inner soul- so never let anyone take advantage or control of your life.  Rise up, shine and take control.  Lots of love…. T

South Africans and fashion

Who said South Africa was a boring and a slowly developing country?  Who said that our Fashions Week would never compete with the Paris, London and the New York Fashion Weeks?  Whoever thinks that, I suggest you strongly reserve your comment and think twice before uttering a word!

Two weeks ago I attended a function in the township of Khayelitsha and later continued the celebrations at a Mzoli equivalent in the township- Kwa Ace.

Can I just say, I have never seen a fashion hub as big as what I saw in a Cape Town township?  Hands down, (to my surprise) but Khayelitsha guys really know how to dress- in fact I just couldn’t stop the complements in gossip mode with a few of my friends- analysing every outfit.  I could page through the last 6 issues of GQ and the first six guys in site would fit a style category for each GQ Style page.

I am quite happy, being a fashion focused chap myself that more men in South Africa are starting to take fashion and their looks seriously.  Perhaps it is now time for me to start that fashion business idea of mine!  Hmmmm. deep thoughts!  Watch this space!  Thanks boys!

It's better to practice a little than talk alot

People often say that actions speak louder than words, perhaps when you look at the true context of this statement, practicing what you preach also comes to mind doesn’t it?  We often prolong and postpone our ambitions and future plans due to planning and talking about them, but never getting around to actually doing anything about them in the end- because all we do is just talk about them, share them with people who turn us down and think and advise that our crazy ideas are actually literally crazy.  More often than not, the crazy ideas actually are good- just that you take other people’s opinions too seriously and end up losing interest in your dreams.  Bad move!

But crazy isn’t always a bad thing is it?  Crazy can be a good idea in another person’s eyes, and a crazy business idea or proposal can make another man (or you) smiling to the bank.  Stop saying the "I wills and I shoulds" and just get up and do what you have always wanted to do.

Think about that one thing you have always wanted to do but never had the support and guts to do it, plan it, structure and make sure you’re set to go and action!  You will be awfully surprised at yourself.

New Beginnings

New Beginnings!  Are these always a good thing?  When should you decide to move on and change certain things in your life?  Are they always meant to be right by the by?  Life is all about taking risks I often preach and emphasise.  And I’ve done just that!  The past few weeks for me haven’t been easy for me, but the sun finally shined and God smiled down on me in more ways than one.

New things are set for me, on a personal level, I’ve never been happier- I have been smiling quite often, perhaps that is all thanks to a new special person who has come into my life a few months ago J A friend of mine once said that there is that special person for all of us out there, I just hope this is my special one!  I mean, the clock isn’t ticking any slower is it?  LOL

Anyway, there are new beginnings and stages in life for us all, and one just needs to be patient and stride looking for happiness in all spheres of your life- in business, relationships, family and friends and for health.  Just a thought.  At least I’m smiling again.

Feelings Follow Behaviour

It has been a while since I blogged, well, two weeks to be exact, but it feels like forever!  Well, I've been out and about gathering my thoughts and mending the few broken pieces of my life.  I am glad to say, that I am back in full motion and taking over the world like I’ve always done, LOL.

Feelings are often things we aren’t able to control or think twice about when matters of the heart come to place.  Our behaviour is also often categorised by what actions we have done and what caused those actions to occur- good or bad in fact.  What I’m trying to bring across here, briefly, is that you should always take care of matters of the heart- your feelings.  The bad ones unfortunately have a way of haunting us.  I leant that the hard way about a month and half ago, when my best friend and I almost called the friendship off and throw the brotherhood relationship we had down the drain, due to feelings of anger which caused both our behaviour to be rather sour.

But being the beautiful beings we are, we decided to put our differences aside and start afresh.  So, next time, think twice before you express your negative feelings.  The good ones on the other hand, well, those you can express and good behaviour from your best half is likely to happen.

A separation not so well deserved....

What do you do when someone very dear to you no longer finds you a necessity in their life?  I sit back and wonder if I should even be worried, concerned and distraught about it.  A part of me thinks that I should try and rekindle things and a part of thinks the contrary.

You see, I’ve grown now and have experienced so many things most guys half way to fifty have experienced in their lifetime- the good and the bad.  So, I just keep thinking that this is not a first and moreover, people come into your life for a reason and when they leave, they leave because their purpose in your life is no longer needed or has been already actioned, and therefore the powers that be may feel comfortable that your relationship comes to an end.  After all, at times friendships and relationships dry out if both parties no longer feed positive energy to each other, or if the relationship becomes drained.

I am please to say that I, like you, I have moved on, and quite frankly at peace with the separation- but I am not angry nor am I upset.  I thank you for everything!

Wedding cake in the middle of the road

Gees!  Imagine seeing that on the freeway on your way to work, raining, no traffic but steadily driving, and you come across a perfectly intact wedding cake, in the middle of the road...what is the first thing that comes to mind?  Hmmm- I wonder if it fell out of a delivery van, or maybe the couple decided to call it quits, prior their so called lifetime commitment.

Anyway, nonetheless, weddings are not top of mind in my life (at this juncture anyway), so I would be the least bothered if I saw such a scene.  With so many unstable relationships and uncertain souls unsure who they want to spend their rest (if lucky) rest of their lives with- I choose to be a bachelor for now thank you very much, and salute those who are brave enough to make that decision.  Don’t get me wrong, I have enough love to share to last me a lifetime, but getting married at this stage of my life, is not even a dream- although I have managed to select my wedding song already.

A wedding cake in the middle of road to me would be a symbol of “think very carefully before proposing and walking down the aisle with that special person”- some things are just not meant to be, and there is nothing wrong with failed relationships and letting go.  Just a thought!

The Quarter Life Crisis- something every 20 something year old should read

Being Twenty-something - they call it the "Quarter-life Crisis".

I read this touching, yet alarmingly true reading via email not so long ago, thinking to myself "OMG!  How true is this?"  Seemingly when I shared my thoughts and revelations about the quarter life crisis, every single friend and colleague of mine seemed to agree.
The quarter life crisis, as it is described, is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.  You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but they love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a badperson.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.  Getting wasted and acting like an idiot doesn't seem as fun.  You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself...and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.

We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.


"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."


It's really amazing when two strangers become the best of friends, but it is really sad when the best of friends become two strangers.


Author:  Unknown

It's a poor idea to lie to yourself

How many times have you thought thoroughly about your life, about what you can do to make it better or change something in your life completely, but the better picture of your life never really seems to what your heart desires?  It is often the case when we’re not actually truly honest to ourselves, our lives or even situations.

Some of us often dream too big (don’t get me wrong- there is nothing wrong with having big dreams), but is it wise to be very realistic about certain things in your life too.  It is a poor idea to lie to yourself....  in fact; I believe that it actually sets you back on a heavy level.  Some things take time and steps to accomplish...

What do you really want with all your heart?  Who would you like to spend the rest of your life with?  Or at least the next five years or decade- judging by society's rather poor commitment rate in this day and age?  Think about what would really make you happy at this point in time- that special girl, that special guy, do you think he/she will love you back unconditionally- will the feeling be mutual? 

Is the relationship you’re in currently toxic?  Or even your friends- do they offer you any value anymore?  If there is a no in one of these, then I would suggest you think really hard, open your heart to new possibilities (life has so much more to offer) and go and get it!  Rather than sitting and thinking of improving a situation that is doomed anyway....remember that there is nothing wrong with letting go (of people or experiences)...but don’t lie to yourself...some of us have learnt it the hard way, but it's better to realise this now, rather than later, dont you think? Much luv! T ;-)

Sacrifices....

What is the biggest sacrifice you've ever had to make?  I think long and hard and a lot of thoughts come to mind.  I have made a lot of sacrifices in my life for myself, family and loved ones/friends.  To a certain extent, it even came to a point where I decided that sacrifices should actually have limits- especially if the results are not forthcoming.

What happens when someone you really value in your life never makes any sacrifices for you?  Or perhaps the love between the two of you is not in par?  This happens in life all the time to people (I’ve seen and listened), the other party pulls more weight than the other in relationships all the time.  Should you then leave?  Pack your bags and call it quits?

I guess this depends on the one’s emotional wellbeing!  Can you cope with being ‘used’ or not getting the same level of respect, contribution, love or support in your relationship?

I would say move on- but then again- staying and hoping for a change of heart or improvement in a situation may be something to hope for- if you have the patience!

But one thing's for sure- never allow yourself to be second best for someone who doesn’t appreciate you!

The sound of one hand clapping

The sound of one hand clapping!  Imagine that!  Imagine performing you best skill with your best foot forward in front of a heavy crowd and only one hand claps as a sign of praise.  Would you be disappointed and not even want to show your face in front of that crowd again?

I don’t think one needs to be saddened by this- after all, not everyone approves about certain acts and statements that we do or say in our everyday lives- because, you see, everyone is different and if you focus on pleasing everyone all the time- you may as well be a celebrity!  Hells, bells, not even they have it easy.  Accept it!  Not everyone will clap in praise for you and this should not be a bother.

In fact, I would even take it a step further and say, why should you need someone's else’s approval to do things well that are meant for the public eye anyway.  Often, in life we hold back or let go of our dreams purely for the fact that people don’t approve about the things we do or say.

The sound of one hand clapping, in my opinion, would be saddening at first, but knowing that someone still believes in me or the things I do or say means a lot to that one specific person- is enough.  So, I say, let that one hand clap (that is all you need) - as long as you are comfortable in your own skin- just shine and let the world be your oyster- you don’t need anybody's approval.

Not all who wonder are lost

From time to time, we all come or have come to a point in our lives where we just don’t know whether we’re Arthur or Martha- Right?  Or is it just me?  Life becomes so busy that you are never sure what your priorities are- your day is just the same, day after day after day- with some exciting bits there and there.

Often we then wonder what we could have done differently in a day and what that difference would have meant.  But then again, perhaps you don’t even have to think about anything apart from your work load, finances, child(ren) or even your car and house.  You wonder and think "Am I really happy?"

Sometimes your thoughts ponder about improving your life, you sibling's lives or children’s lives-  we see people with straight faces in traffic, at the office, at school parent-teacher meetings- wondering their minds away like there is no tomorrow- but poor souls may be thinking about the bigger picture and future dreams and aspirations.  We should actually all never take ourselves seriously and concentrate in our inner selves more often than we give time to ourselves.

After all – as the saying goes “You don’t really exist if you don’t dream...”

Decisions, Decisions

Have you ever been stuck in a situation that you aren’t able to control and not know what the outcomes will be if you make the right or wrong decision?  This becomes awfully difficult and more complicated when matters of the heart are involved in this process- decision making.

Often in our lives we find ourselves not knowing what is best to do or trying not to hurt our closest friends and loved ones.  Should one even try to please others in their close social circle or should "you" count first and not care what others feel or think about your decisions?

Hmmm, I wonder?  I’m actually stuck between two big decisions that I need to make by the end of this week, and every day I ponder thinking how this will impact my life and the ones close to me.  It is a difficult one, but I strongly believe I will strive in whatever decision I make.

So far, the first stage of my decision seems right, I guess only time will tell whether or not the rest of the story will be filled with cheer, happiness and total bliss.

I could just sigh right now and say "Eish!"  A word I often use quite a lot when I’m a tad stressed.  But one thing is for sure, I will be smiling at the end of it all.

Much love...
T

Me and my blog

Why do people follow blogs?  This is a question that has been top of mind for weeks, so much that I have now decided that I actually need to be marketing myself more vigorously and speak my mind- which is what I do best- and share my thoughts with the world.  My name is Thabo Smouse, by the by!

As a blogger, I blog about the world's occurrences and share my experiences on matters of the world or just generally my perception on random things.  Often people tell me that I have a different take on things.  The things that stress people out to the core are sometimes a walk in the park for me, while the least worrying things to some traumatise me.  So, in essence I know that I am different, and know for a fact that there are lots more other souls out there who have the same or similar view on life as me.  I would like to share my world with those beings out there.

So, my blog is about my life's experiences, observations, findings and what the world and its vast people mean to me.  I plan to grow my blog this year and share what I know and think.  Aplty titled " The Smouse Perspective"  I feel that this is exactly what my blog offers, my perspective and take on life, read it, you'll be surprised at what goes on in this interesting, crazy but good mind of mine.

It's a small world

Is it really a small world as some usually say?  Growing up, I used to think nothing more of who I dealt with, who I pleased or who I talked to- I’m referring to my high school and teenage years that is.  This was until I met a friend of a friend, who was a friend of a friend who had happened to help out on a small favour that was kind of big and made an impact in a big way in my life.

This was also when I decided to treat others like I would want to be treated, never burn bridges and be a kind soul to all those deserving, because in life you never what to expect or what someone can mean to you in the near future.

This weekend alone, I met a young brother of an acquaintance of mine, who happened to be lectured by uncle, who happened to be looking for an internship, one that was in relation to his field of study that the company I work for is offering.  One small chat lead to a connection and networking opportunity for the lad, and I was willing to help however I could, after all, that is how I landed my first job, and the rest is history.

A funnier story is that I’m now best friends, with my exes and neighbours boyfriend's cousin, funny how we are always intertwined hey?  I laugh!

How do you step from the top of a 100 foot pole?

Often we underestimate ourselves, let go of our dreams and never fulfil our destinies due to everyday circumstances  Once in a while one need to just close their eyes, dream, take a step back and do what you feel is right or do best.

Letting go or changing careers, you life or lover is sometimes not a bad things, perhaps some would even say that is it the right thing to do in order to fulfil your destiny.  I often wonder how my life would have been had I studied a different profession - not that I don’t love what I do, PR and Communications was my first choice and love  But now, I’ve come to realise that there is more to my life than words and more words.

I’m more of a people orientated type of guy and feel that it is time to expand my horizons and take others with me, miss what I love the most, fashion and PR and create a mixture of fashion, trends, media and public relations.

I’ve decided to step from the top of my 100 foot pole, close my eyes, take the risk and fly!  I say, so should you!

Tempted to do something not so right

There is a 90's song by Destiny's Child, derived from their first or second album titled "temptation".  “I just sighed as I write this piece, thinking about how tempted I was to do something not so right yesterday, but felt appropriate nonetheless”.  Something in me, said I shouldn’t continue with what I was about to do, it sad “maybe another time”.  I was right! 

A few hours ago, I realised why that little voice advised me not to be led into temptation and just let things be, I know I’m speaking in tongues, but one day I will revert to this subject and continue with it further,

Let’s just say I realised that special friends are important, and had I been led to temptation yesterday, I would have ruined a very important relationship and friendship respectively, without even realising the effects or what I could have done was not so right, yet not so wrong.

So, beautiful people, next time you are tempted to do something good (like a shopping spree, which is good for the soul) or bad, think about how you will feel the next day and what your actions will mean for and to your loved ones.  Enough Said!

We are what we do

Are we really what we do?  To a certain extent, yes!  We often make decisions that we don’t thoroughly think about before taking decisions.  Or sometimes we plan things carefully, but not necessarily in the best way.  Nonetheless, I believe that the decisions we make and the things that we do make us who we really are in reality.

Two scenarios come to mind, if you participate in unsavoury acts with unsavoury people, you may start to think, act and dress like them.  What people then eventually see is an unsavoury being that mixes with a similar crowd (after all you are the company you keep), your crowd in this case.  And then eventually, you are categorised as an unsavoury person by citizens and you end being comfortable with the form of living, until something changes that.

Another scenario is if you are always a positive, giving and over friendly person, who wants to achieve and get results; people will start seeing you in such a way. And you too, start feeling this way, as you exude positive energy.  What you do makes you who you are, and to a certain extent, how people view you, makes you who you are – for some anyway.

Next time, I advise you think thoroughly about your actions, association and change them if you feel like it.  But don’t do it for people, do it for you.

Trust

When do you know when NOT to trust a person?  The world is filled with ugly hearted people, even so funny; that I posted on Facebook yesterday, that I have stopped being nice.  One of my Facebook friends however, thought I was thinking irrationally and that I should not change my character because of certain incidents that occur in my life.

I was unpleasantly surprised, at how a trusted friend could betray me.  I will however admit that the friend does not know that I found what is going on in their mind and what they have done (to me).  I sound like a scorned soap character, don’t I?  Okay, on a serious note then, trust between friends is extremely important, between, family, your lover, soul mate and colleagues.  For any relationship to continue successfully, trust comes a long way and believe that the feeling should be mutual at all times. 

I still do not understand why people feel the need to be fake- it makes the world such an ugly place to live in.  if you don’t like a person for some odd reason, either confront the situation or let them be, do not try to pretend that you have their best interests at heart and go bad mouthing them behind their backs.

Remember- God is watching and ticking.

Have a great day ladies and gentlemen!
Much Love
Thabo

We are afraid of the wrong things

We are afraid of the wrong things and reason in our everyday lives!  Christian’s believe in the teaching of fear no evil and fear no one but God!  This is so true in my opinion, and I believe that we should not fear or live our lives in fear, bluntly putting it.  We tend to overlook certain things and hold back and some even fear rejection and failure.

I suppose there is nothing really wrong with taking your time to accomplish your goals; after all, there are so many reasons why people never accomplish tasks.  These can momentary reasons, emotional matters and fear among others.  Fear is an ugly word that I would confidently say I do not use quite often- well I try anyway.

We should not fear about tomorrow holds, about what could happen and could have happened.  Trust God to take care of what you think you cannot manage- as the saying goes, God will never give you a task you cannot handle and I believe this is true.  Trials and tribulations are only meant to make you a stronger person.  Do not fear what your heart can’t handle, sometime, alternate between thinking with your heart and thinking with your brain.  I say "Do not be afraid!"

This is Love

One of my ultimate favourite songs is by Kelly Rowland, of Destiny's Child fame, from her second and most successful album, the song aptly titled "This is Love".  I was once a firm believer and giver of love until my heart was broken so badly more than I even want to remember, in fact!  I will admit though, what I may have missed is that 3 of those heart breaking times were not the real thing.  Real love – I now believe, only comes twice in a lifetime, my first effort at the game came and went, and now I firmly believe and trust in God that my second is on its way.

I once read some very interesting words about love.  The reading went as follows; in your life you will find one person, your forever love, your forever friend.  This person is your soul mate, your one true love, and your best friend.  The Love between you will go beyond words, and be spoken deep within your eyes.  This feeling, this connection, will never be broken.  They will truly show you that forever, means forever!

This was very touching, so much that I decided to look at love in a very different context.  I now look forward to the love of my life.  In fact I am very excited

Fish falling from the sky

So the sayings go, when pigs fly, once in a blue moon and fish falling from the sky.  So many people often use these statements, what exactly is the deep thought and meaning of such statements?  What would your interpretation of fish falling from the sky be?  When I think of such a statement, the first thing that comes to mind are free things and opportunities coming your way, the sky being the limit and reaching for your dreams but most importantly, making them a reality.

Fish often fall from the sky for all, well for most humans anyway.  But often, we tend to neglect such opportunities that come our way, be too comfortable in our comfort zones and forget what our full potential is and what it can be.  I admire those souls who grasp at everything opportunities that comes their way at every given time.

Fish fall from the sky (from God as some and I believe), but it would be time to consider changing your old habits and making your dreams a reality.  There are many opportunities for everyone, in every sector, expand your horizons and be who you have always wanted to be, if you have already- I say well done to you!

Fashion vs Style

Fashion and style are often confused by most.  I understand that for many, not having either is the least important thing in their lives.  Yet, some of life's material things are treasured by some.  Let me take some time and share some of my fashion thoughts- a subject I truly enjoy.  I think everyone should have style, in fact there should be absolutely no excuse for people not to have some style if they have a daily encounter with people.

The difference between the two is that fashion is very high end, comes and goes and can sometimes only be pulled off by the brave.  On the other hand, style is more timeless, is necessary for all to have and can actually boost your self esteem.  From a psychological perspective, people perceive you by the way you dress (more than 50% of a first acquaintance), the rest is determined by how you walk, speak and stand.  So, it is important for one to always make an effort where clothing is concerned,  for guys, wearing a plain coloured shirt, well fitted jeans and proper shoes is quite essentials for simple style.  Remember the sock rule!  No white socks ever!  The colour of your socks should a shade lighter than your shoes and a shade darker than your pants. While for ladies wearing matching colours, wearing for your body size and keeping it simple but bold is what makes a lady stylish.  I will continue this topic in full perspective and analysis next week and advise some more as time goes.

One doesn’t really have to have a good fashion sense, but style is important for anyone in business, for those that demand attention or are in a position of leadership or want to followed in the respective field of interest.  It is okay to make an effort; it will do your self esteem a whole good.  I once read that when you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good, your positive energy is transferred onto those around you- which automatically makes the world a better place, don’t you think?

A friend of mine said to me yesterday, “how interesting would the world be if everyone made an effort to dress up”.  Now that i think about it, it actually would.

What is the colour of the wind?

Look around, smell the breeze and let the sun shine!  In your mind, your soul and perhaps even pretend to be a plant and photosynthesise.  We often take our lives for granted and before we know it, the week is over, a month gone by and then seasons change.  We wake up in the morning, perform our daily routines, go to work or school, eat, do hobbies and sleep some more.  Every day is just the same for everybody, just with different views, set ups and circumstances.  But we all have common occurrences- puppets of the world.
Have you ever stopped and thought how different or better your life would be if you changed the way you do things, treat people, prayed, spoil your loved ones?  If you would change one thing about your life, what would it be?  Would you settle for less, is money more important, or do you prefer happiness over money?  What is the colour of the wind, I ask?  One would never be able to notice that wind, like many of life's substances, actually has a colour- even in your imagination that is.   Next time, take some time to relax, do what you love most and do what you aim to achieve whilst changing a few things in your life and notice the colour of the wind. 

There is so much more to life than living your life the same way you have for the last 5 years or decade.  Notice the colour of the wind, the colour of my wind is transparent baby blue- what colour is your wind?

Unnecessary Stress

Are some people in this world born and made to annoy you?  I always ask myself this question on almost a monthly basis, as I cannot take silly and unnecessary attitudes from people.  Have you ever wondered why people get minor strokes and get stress disorders?  Sometimes, this is mainly due to people not putting their foot down on office bullies, school bullies and villain teachers who just make your heart want to boil.

I may be venting at an episode that may have just occurred, but hey- I have to vent somehow.  And, as much as I tend to do the same to people, I choose the right moments and who to blow my fire on- only those most deserving.  Another incident that occurred this afternoon was with a sales lady at a leading takeaway outlet, who gave me grief for wanting to swipe 15c from my debit card and give her the R40, 00 cash that was due.  I mean really, she could have just called the manager and the manager could have agreed to let me have my takeaway with the 15c short, nonetheless, because I always win my battles, I managed to get what I want. 

What I didn’t like though, was the bad attitude and irritated voice while speaking to me about me being unnecessary- one thing she forgot is that I was the customer, and should have been allowed to do as I please- after all, I was paying for my meal.  Am I right or am I right?  Next time you want to vent your anger, think of the consequences and if the person is deserving of your anger.  Just a thought.

If I were the Boss

If I were the boss, I would treat my employees with respect, throw my staff parties every month just to boost company morale, ensure that everyone (those worthy) receive bonuses every year, and that incentives in the form of shopping vouchers are handed to those hard working individuals on a monthly basis- well - those that go the extra mile anyway.  I know this may sound like the total opposite of what my boss is, but in actual fact, she too, does the same for her staff members, expect for the shopping vouchers of course, we only get those on our birthdays.

On a serious note though, if I were the boss I would be totally awesome when it comes to treating my staff with the utmost respect and keeping communication key and free. I’ve learnt that disrespected employees, tend not to feel like they belong, will most likely make mistakes, not attend work at least twice a month just to recuperate from the stressful working conditions, and I would never be a villain to those undeserving souls, yet I am hard core when it comes to business (perhaps I’m contradicting myself), I would need to put on a friendly front and endorse a happy working environment that is suitable for all, a family orientated set up where we would all feel like going to work is like going to your second home away from home type of thing.

I would still keep my ground though, ensuring that business objectives are met, profit is generated and more clientele is brought on bought keeping in mind of more prospective job specs to make the business more profitable by expanding the company’s services on a yearly basis.

If I were boss, I would be a legend and everyone would want to work for me.  Well, we hope!

Friends

How important are friends in your life?  Have you ever noticed how the number of real friends you have in your life depreciate as the years go by.  For instance, a 40 year old man or woman will most likely only have one important friend in their life, while a 30 something year old would likely have 3, a 20 year old 4 and a teenager would have at least 8.  As we grow, we learn that friends are important, but not as important as you- that is life's lessons of self love and self actualisation.

I value the friends that I’ve maintained a relationship with for five years and longer, we fight and we get along again, in fact, we are almost like brothers.  I read an article last night about whether or not people should divorce their friends, the column I read had a YES and NO answer with motivations behind both feedback respectively.  I actually ended up agreeing with the YES!  Yes, friends can be divorced, especially if you find yourself unhappy in the relationship and not gaining anything out of the friendship.

This lady that commented, mentioned how drained she would feel every time that she and her best friend would converse- every conversation would be tiring, hideous, or draining.  So she informed her friend how she felt and their communication then failed afterwards.  I was stuck in the same situation not so long ago, when my then best friend used to call me in the early hours of the morning complaining about EVERYTHING and always had problems. I felt so drained, and funny enough the day that I had a problem he was unable to help me, and so I decided to action the divorce.  Now, we are only acquaintances and I am comfortable with that and so is he in fact.  But one this is for sure- I was there at his time of need and perhaps God directed us to each other so that I would be a lending hand and support system- I was glad to have helped, I know a few people of that nature whom I will always cherish for helping me out at my time of need.

So, all in all, friends come and go, I value friendships and feel that the feeling must always be mutual and share the love equally.

Two People Came Out of a Building and into a story

Have you ever wondered how life would be if you were to see the days of our lives from a bird’s eye view?  Are the people we meet in lives destined to be our friends, lovers or in laws?  I’ve always wondered and always seem to have good friends but never get to keep them for long.  I used to think there was something wrong with me until I decided that actually- friends, like lovers, come and go and everyone comes into your life for a reason, fate as some believe.

I have three best friends that I’ve been friends with for years, every year (or two) if lucky, I get a new best friend and then we lose touch or I decide to end the friendship is it gets too draining for my liking- you know that some people take advantage of your kindness and generosity- I’m a typical cancerian- a mother hen to everyone.  One lesson I have learnt though, is that I should always make an impact and play an important role in that person's life, so that when our “expiry” date comes, he or she will remember me as the best friend he or she never had.

Two people come out of a building and into a story- we all come from different backgrounds and sometimes we pass each other and meet in town or at events, without even knowing that one day that particular lady or gentlemen you’re standing in a queue with, might just be your future spouse or best friend in the next 5 years or decade.  With this in mind it is vital for one to be mindful of their acts and attitude- (for those who have temper syndromes that is) who knows, the lady you yell at your shopping kiosk might be your next managing director or interview you next week.  Our stories are all different yet so similar; we wake up in the morning, not knowing whether your day will be a good one or a bad one.  Life is like a story board, it is up to you to make it worthwhile for yourself or for your loved ones.

Celebrity World?

What does being a celebrity really entail?  Is it fame or is it the fortune? Or perhaps the clothes and the cars?  I for one have always fancied being a celebrity but never really had the heart to audition for anything or participate in any calls for action for reality shows.  I’ve always thought “what if I don’t make it?”  My heart would have never been able to handle the rejection and my self esteem would have been demolished to say the least.  Anyway, I think there is a big difference between the lives our celebrities live in comparison to our international counterparts- the United States and the United Kingdom in particular.

Take for instance the South African music industry, I feel it is so short-lived, our artists will only manage to produce up to 5 albums in their career lifetime if lucky, and then it's downhill from there on- which is such a sad case as some if these artist have nothing to fall back on afterwards.  And as an actor/ess, making it in a leading soapie is a big achievement- should you land a leading or prominent role.  Either than that, SA sitcoms aren’t really something you can call your bread and butter. Or are they?

With this said, I concluded to myself ages ago that I'd rather be content in my career and the life I lead and throw my childhood dream of being celebrated where the sun doesn’t shine- after all, I am a realist and I lack the talent required for of singing, dancing and acting combined, so either way, even if I had made it, perhaps because of my looks, I would have been old news in a matter of 5 year- the normal time span of most of SA celebs.

Nonetheless, I still have my favourites though- my favourite was the late Lebo Mathosa, but now, I am a big fan of my boy Zakes Bantwini- I clap my hands.

Much Love. T

Is age just a number?

Twenty five years and going strong!  Well, so I tend to believe anyway- that keeps me sane.  How does one measure how old they are?  Should you feel old when you are 35 (like most women do) while some believe that life begins at 40?  If this is so, why do I keep feeling that as the years go by, I can’t help but want to get younger by the year?  In actual fact, I don’t want to age, the thought of getting wrinkles, not being able to jog as fast as I can etc. Makes me want to stop time!  But then I look at my mom, my aunts and uncles and none of them look their age, so it is in hope that I will follow in their paths and age as well as they are- keeping my fashion sense goes without say.
Is age then just a number?  I have seen quite a number of well aged men who do the same activities as I do?  And I think to myself “I want to be exactly like them!”.  Life is too short to feel old, I say as long as you can still breath, dance, and smile and believe in God and yourself- the sky is the limit.

I want to look back at my life in my retirement age and feel that I was a proud South African who did his best in life, touched a few lives in a special way and kept thriving for success.

There is no such thing as old.  Is there?

Designer PR?

Have you ever wondered how public relations (PR) and design come together?  Public relations as an industry keeps evolving year after year, and like design it tends to change and evolve over time, keeping up with the trends and what's in and what's best for the masses out in the world.

So, with that in mind, both industries are kind of linked together- full of energy, doing it for the people, attention to detail, fun, fast paced and enjoyable- now- have you ever wondered and looked at the world around you- the buildings, the fashion, the cars, technology, your house, your utensils and even the magazines and newspapers you read? Designed by people you know, by those that have an eye for what you think is right, for what will be socially acceptable to you- you end up purchasing goods and services appealing to you and indoctrinated by a hard working public relations person who has thought long and hard about how a certain item will be of interest to you and influencing you with the help of the media to make that decision.

Next time...think and wonder how YOUR world would be without design and public relations...what do you see?

I am

My name is Thabo, Smouse- as most know me- I suppose it's because of my starnge Afrikaans surname for a yound black man.  Ive never really found it strange, after all I've had it all my life and have heard diffrent people pronounce it differently.  Nonetheless, I am Smouse- a young, black and gifted gentleman who is easy going, friendly and optimistic.  Some have labelled me as a conceited, rude and selfish bastard.  That may be because of my shyness.  Because I'm a quite individual around strangers doesnt mean that I am mean.  I tend to wonder why I should put a front of kindness and pretend to be like the rest of the world.  Just the other day, a friend of a friend refused to greet me when we were introduced- as she assumed that i was conceited because not once did I smile at her...I dont smile at strangers and I dont converse with the evil.  That doesnt make me a bad person- or does it?  To end off, I am a humble, sweet, talented and strong willed person.  Much Love! Thabo