Are some people in this world born and made to annoy you? I always ask myself this question on almost a monthly basis, as I cannot take silly and unnecessary attitudes from people. Have you ever wondered why people get minor strokes and get stress disorders? Sometimes, this is mainly due to people not putting their foot down on office bullies, school bullies and villain teachers who just make your heart want to boil.
I may be venting at an episode that may have just occurred, but hey- I have to vent somehow. And, as much as I tend to do the same to people, I choose the right moments and who to blow my fire on- only those most deserving. Another incident that occurred this afternoon was with a sales lady at a leading takeaway outlet, who gave me grief for wanting to swipe 15c from my debit card and give her the R40, 00 cash that was due. I mean really, she could have just called the manager and the manager could have agreed to let me have my takeaway with the 15c short, nonetheless, because I always win my battles, I managed to get what I want.
What I didn’t like though, was the bad attitude and irritated voice while speaking to me about me being unnecessary- one thing she forgot is that I was the customer, and should have been allowed to do as I please- after all, I was paying for my meal. Am I right or am I right? Next time you want to vent your anger, think of the consequences and if the person is deserving of your anger. Just a thought.
Monday, February 28, 2011
Sunday, February 27, 2011
If I were the Boss
If I were the boss, I would treat my employees with respect, throw my staff parties every month just to boost company morale, ensure that everyone (those worthy) receive bonuses every year, and that incentives in the form of shopping vouchers are handed to those hard working individuals on a monthly basis- well - those that go the extra mile anyway. I know this may sound like the total opposite of what my boss is, but in actual fact, she too, does the same for her staff members, expect for the shopping vouchers of course, we only get those on our birthdays.
On a serious note though, if I were the boss I would be totally awesome when it comes to treating my staff with the utmost respect and keeping communication key and free. I’ve learnt that disrespected employees, tend not to feel like they belong, will most likely make mistakes, not attend work at least twice a month just to recuperate from the stressful working conditions, and I would never be a villain to those undeserving souls, yet I am hard core when it comes to business (perhaps I’m contradicting myself), I would need to put on a friendly front and endorse a happy working environment that is suitable for all, a family orientated set up where we would all feel like going to work is like going to your second home away from home type of thing.
I would still keep my ground though, ensuring that business objectives are met, profit is generated and more clientele is brought on bought keeping in mind of more prospective job specs to make the business more profitable by expanding the company’s services on a yearly basis.
If I were boss, I would be a legend and everyone would want to work for me. Well, we hope!
On a serious note though, if I were the boss I would be totally awesome when it comes to treating my staff with the utmost respect and keeping communication key and free. I’ve learnt that disrespected employees, tend not to feel like they belong, will most likely make mistakes, not attend work at least twice a month just to recuperate from the stressful working conditions, and I would never be a villain to those undeserving souls, yet I am hard core when it comes to business (perhaps I’m contradicting myself), I would need to put on a friendly front and endorse a happy working environment that is suitable for all, a family orientated set up where we would all feel like going to work is like going to your second home away from home type of thing.
I would still keep my ground though, ensuring that business objectives are met, profit is generated and more clientele is brought on bought keeping in mind of more prospective job specs to make the business more profitable by expanding the company’s services on a yearly basis.
If I were boss, I would be a legend and everyone would want to work for me. Well, we hope!
Monday, February 21, 2011
Friends
How important are friends in your life? Have you ever noticed how the number of real friends you have in your life depreciate as the years go by. For instance, a 40 year old man or woman will most likely only have one important friend in their life, while a 30 something year old would likely have 3, a 20 year old 4 and a teenager would have at least 8. As we grow, we learn that friends are important, but not as important as you- that is life's lessons of self love and self actualisation.
I value the friends that I’ve maintained a relationship with for five years and longer, we fight and we get along again, in fact, we are almost like brothers. I read an article last night about whether or not people should divorce their friends, the column I read had a YES and NO answer with motivations behind both feedback respectively. I actually ended up agreeing with the YES! Yes, friends can be divorced, especially if you find yourself unhappy in the relationship and not gaining anything out of the friendship.
This lady that commented, mentioned how drained she would feel every time that she and her best friend would converse- every conversation would be tiring, hideous, or draining. So she informed her friend how she felt and their communication then failed afterwards. I was stuck in the same situation not so long ago, when my then best friend used to call me in the early hours of the morning complaining about EVERYTHING and always had problems. I felt so drained, and funny enough the day that I had a problem he was unable to help me, and so I decided to action the divorce. Now, we are only acquaintances and I am comfortable with that and so is he in fact. But one this is for sure- I was there at his time of need and perhaps God directed us to each other so that I would be a lending hand and support system- I was glad to have helped, I know a few people of that nature whom I will always cherish for helping me out at my time of need.
So, all in all, friends come and go, I value friendships and feel that the feeling must always be mutual and share the love equally.
I value the friends that I’ve maintained a relationship with for five years and longer, we fight and we get along again, in fact, we are almost like brothers. I read an article last night about whether or not people should divorce their friends, the column I read had a YES and NO answer with motivations behind both feedback respectively. I actually ended up agreeing with the YES! Yes, friends can be divorced, especially if you find yourself unhappy in the relationship and not gaining anything out of the friendship.
This lady that commented, mentioned how drained she would feel every time that she and her best friend would converse- every conversation would be tiring, hideous, or draining. So she informed her friend how she felt and their communication then failed afterwards. I was stuck in the same situation not so long ago, when my then best friend used to call me in the early hours of the morning complaining about EVERYTHING and always had problems. I felt so drained, and funny enough the day that I had a problem he was unable to help me, and so I decided to action the divorce. Now, we are only acquaintances and I am comfortable with that and so is he in fact. But one this is for sure- I was there at his time of need and perhaps God directed us to each other so that I would be a lending hand and support system- I was glad to have helped, I know a few people of that nature whom I will always cherish for helping me out at my time of need.
So, all in all, friends come and go, I value friendships and feel that the feeling must always be mutual and share the love equally.
Two People Came Out of a Building and into a story
Have you ever wondered how life would be if you were to see the days of our lives from a bird’s eye view? Are the people we meet in lives destined to be our friends, lovers or in laws? I’ve always wondered and always seem to have good friends but never get to keep them for long. I used to think there was something wrong with me until I decided that actually- friends, like lovers, come and go and everyone comes into your life for a reason, fate as some believe.
I have three best friends that I’ve been friends with for years, every year (or two) if lucky, I get a new best friend and then we lose touch or I decide to end the friendship is it gets too draining for my liking- you know that some people take advantage of your kindness and generosity- I’m a typical cancerian- a mother hen to everyone. One lesson I have learnt though, is that I should always make an impact and play an important role in that person's life, so that when our “expiry” date comes, he or she will remember me as the best friend he or she never had.
Two people come out of a building and into a story- we all come from different backgrounds and sometimes we pass each other and meet in town or at events, without even knowing that one day that particular lady or gentlemen you’re standing in a queue with, might just be your future spouse or best friend in the next 5 years or decade. With this in mind it is vital for one to be mindful of their acts and attitude- (for those who have temper syndromes that is) who knows, the lady you yell at your shopping kiosk might be your next managing director or interview you next week. Our stories are all different yet so similar; we wake up in the morning, not knowing whether your day will be a good one or a bad one. Life is like a story board, it is up to you to make it worthwhile for yourself or for your loved ones.
I have three best friends that I’ve been friends with for years, every year (or two) if lucky, I get a new best friend and then we lose touch or I decide to end the friendship is it gets too draining for my liking- you know that some people take advantage of your kindness and generosity- I’m a typical cancerian- a mother hen to everyone. One lesson I have learnt though, is that I should always make an impact and play an important role in that person's life, so that when our “expiry” date comes, he or she will remember me as the best friend he or she never had.
Two people come out of a building and into a story- we all come from different backgrounds and sometimes we pass each other and meet in town or at events, without even knowing that one day that particular lady or gentlemen you’re standing in a queue with, might just be your future spouse or best friend in the next 5 years or decade. With this in mind it is vital for one to be mindful of their acts and attitude- (for those who have temper syndromes that is) who knows, the lady you yell at your shopping kiosk might be your next managing director or interview you next week. Our stories are all different yet so similar; we wake up in the morning, not knowing whether your day will be a good one or a bad one. Life is like a story board, it is up to you to make it worthwhile for yourself or for your loved ones.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Celebrity World?
What does being a celebrity really entail? Is it fame or is it the fortune? Or perhaps the clothes and the cars? I for one have always fancied being a celebrity but never really had the heart to audition for anything or participate in any calls for action for reality shows. I’ve always thought “what if I don’t make it?” My heart would have never been able to handle the rejection and my self esteem would have been demolished to say the least. Anyway, I think there is a big difference between the lives our celebrities live in comparison to our international counterparts- the United States and the United Kingdom in particular.
Take for instance the South African music industry, I feel it is so short-lived, our artists will only manage to produce up to 5 albums in their career lifetime if lucky, and then it's downhill from there on- which is such a sad case as some if these artist have nothing to fall back on afterwards. And as an actor/ess, making it in a leading soapie is a big achievement- should you land a leading or prominent role. Either than that, SA sitcoms aren’t really something you can call your bread and butter. Or are they?
With this said, I concluded to myself ages ago that I'd rather be content in my career and the life I lead and throw my childhood dream of being celebrated where the sun doesn’t shine- after all, I am a realist and I lack the talent required for of singing, dancing and acting combined, so either way, even if I had made it, perhaps because of my looks, I would have been old news in a matter of 5 year- the normal time span of most of SA celebs.
Nonetheless, I still have my favourites though- my favourite was the late Lebo Mathosa, but now, I am a big fan of my boy Zakes Bantwini- I clap my hands.
Much Love. T
Take for instance the South African music industry, I feel it is so short-lived, our artists will only manage to produce up to 5 albums in their career lifetime if lucky, and then it's downhill from there on- which is such a sad case as some if these artist have nothing to fall back on afterwards. And as an actor/ess, making it in a leading soapie is a big achievement- should you land a leading or prominent role. Either than that, SA sitcoms aren’t really something you can call your bread and butter. Or are they?
With this said, I concluded to myself ages ago that I'd rather be content in my career and the life I lead and throw my childhood dream of being celebrated where the sun doesn’t shine- after all, I am a realist and I lack the talent required for of singing, dancing and acting combined, so either way, even if I had made it, perhaps because of my looks, I would have been old news in a matter of 5 year- the normal time span of most of SA celebs.
Nonetheless, I still have my favourites though- my favourite was the late Lebo Mathosa, but now, I am a big fan of my boy Zakes Bantwini- I clap my hands.
Much Love. T
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Is age just a number?
Twenty five years and going strong! Well, so I tend to believe anyway- that keeps me sane. How does one measure how old they are? Should you feel old when you are 35 (like most women do) while some believe that life begins at 40? If this is so, why do I keep feeling that as the years go by, I can’t help but want to get younger by the year? In actual fact, I don’t want to age, the thought of getting wrinkles, not being able to jog as fast as I can etc. Makes me want to stop time! But then I look at my mom, my aunts and uncles and none of them look their age, so it is in hope that I will follow in their paths and age as well as they are- keeping my fashion sense goes without say.
Is age then just a number? I have seen quite a number of well aged men who do the same activities as I do? And I think to myself “I want to be exactly like them!”. Life is too short to feel old, I say as long as you can still breath, dance, and smile and believe in God and yourself- the sky is the limit.
I want to look back at my life in my retirement age and feel that I was a proud South African who did his best in life, touched a few lives in a special way and kept thriving for success.
There is no such thing as old. Is there?
Is age then just a number? I have seen quite a number of well aged men who do the same activities as I do? And I think to myself “I want to be exactly like them!”. Life is too short to feel old, I say as long as you can still breath, dance, and smile and believe in God and yourself- the sky is the limit.
I want to look back at my life in my retirement age and feel that I was a proud South African who did his best in life, touched a few lives in a special way and kept thriving for success.
There is no such thing as old. Is there?
Designer PR?
Have you ever wondered how public relations (PR) and design come together? Public relations as an industry keeps evolving year after year, and like design it tends to change and evolve over time, keeping up with the trends and what's in and what's best for the masses out in the world.
So, with that in mind, both industries are kind of linked together- full of energy, doing it for the people, attention to detail, fun, fast paced and enjoyable- now- have you ever wondered and looked at the world around you- the buildings, the fashion, the cars, technology, your house, your utensils and even the magazines and newspapers you read? Designed by people you know, by those that have an eye for what you think is right, for what will be socially acceptable to you- you end up purchasing goods and services appealing to you and indoctrinated by a hard working public relations person who has thought long and hard about how a certain item will be of interest to you and influencing you with the help of the media to make that decision.
Next time...think and wonder how YOUR world would be without design and public relations...what do you see?
So, with that in mind, both industries are kind of linked together- full of energy, doing it for the people, attention to detail, fun, fast paced and enjoyable- now- have you ever wondered and looked at the world around you- the buildings, the fashion, the cars, technology, your house, your utensils and even the magazines and newspapers you read? Designed by people you know, by those that have an eye for what you think is right, for what will be socially acceptable to you- you end up purchasing goods and services appealing to you and indoctrinated by a hard working public relations person who has thought long and hard about how a certain item will be of interest to you and influencing you with the help of the media to make that decision.
Next time...think and wonder how YOUR world would be without design and public relations...what do you see?
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
I am
My name is Thabo, Smouse- as most know me- I suppose it's because of my starnge Afrikaans surname for a yound black man. Ive never really found it strange, after all I've had it all my life and have heard diffrent people pronounce it differently. Nonetheless, I am Smouse- a young, black and gifted gentleman who is easy going, friendly and optimistic. Some have labelled me as a conceited, rude and selfish bastard. That may be because of my shyness. Because I'm a quite individual around strangers doesnt mean that I am mean. I tend to wonder why I should put a front of kindness and pretend to be like the rest of the world. Just the other day, a friend of a friend refused to greet me when we were introduced- as she assumed that i was conceited because not once did I smile at her...I dont smile at strangers and I dont converse with the evil. That doesnt make me a bad person- or does it? To end off, I am a humble, sweet, talented and strong willed person. Much Love! Thabo
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