How important are friends in your life? Have you ever noticed how the number of real friends you have in your life depreciate as the years go by. For instance, a 40 year old man or woman will most likely only have one important friend in their life, while a 30 something year old would likely have 3, a 20 year old 4 and a teenager would have at least 8. As we grow, we learn that friends are important, but not as important as you- that is life's lessons of self love and self actualisation.
I value the friends that I’ve maintained a relationship with for five years and longer, we fight and we get along again, in fact, we are almost like brothers. I read an article last night about whether or not people should divorce their friends, the column I read had a YES and NO answer with motivations behind both feedback respectively. I actually ended up agreeing with the YES! Yes, friends can be divorced, especially if you find yourself unhappy in the relationship and not gaining anything out of the friendship.
This lady that commented, mentioned how drained she would feel every time that she and her best friend would converse- every conversation would be tiring, hideous, or draining. So she informed her friend how she felt and their communication then failed afterwards. I was stuck in the same situation not so long ago, when my then best friend used to call me in the early hours of the morning complaining about EVERYTHING and always had problems. I felt so drained, and funny enough the day that I had a problem he was unable to help me, and so I decided to action the divorce. Now, we are only acquaintances and I am comfortable with that and so is he in fact. But one this is for sure- I was there at his time of need and perhaps God directed us to each other so that I would be a lending hand and support system- I was glad to have helped, I know a few people of that nature whom I will always cherish for helping me out at my time of need.
So, all in all, friends come and go, I value friendships and feel that the feeling must always be mutual and share the love equally.
Definetly Thabo, when a relationship is not working for YOU, it's time to move on, but I believe communication is key, the friend needs to know what bothers you so that both of you can work on it, but it must not be a one sided effort. At the same time, true friends are hard to find, we need to cherish them.
ReplyDeleteSo true, its so hard to cultivate and maintain a good friendship because its hardly ever mutual, i give up so easily when i know that im wasting my time...this really hit home:(
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